Teaching Kids About Strangers – Dubai Psychologist Advice

Living in a safe country like the UAE, if you’re tempted to think that teaching kids about strangers is not an urgent conversation, you’d be wrong, according to Dubai-based Psychologist, Dr. Sarah Rasmi.

Why Teaching Kids About Strangers is so Important

  • Earlier this year, a Canadian mother visiting Bollwoodland at the Dubai Parks and Resorts with her family got into an altercation with a 35-year-old man because of the way he had spoken to her five-year-old daughter. “He was asking her personal questions and then told her to come with him, and when my daughter refused, he asked her why. She said she didn’t know him, and he told her she could get to know him, and if I hadn’t intervened at that moment, he might have convinced my daughter to accompany him,” says the mother, who wished to remain anonymous.
  • A few months earlier, Jordanian parents found their nine-year-old daughter terrified and sobbing in the corner of a toy store. She had been browsing through the aisles, with her parents only a few metres away, when one of the store’s employees approached her and told her he would teach her yoga in a corner of the store. He then groped the girl and made her touch him in return, retreating only when she began sobbing and calling for her parents.

Attempted abductions and unwanted attention from strangers does happen to children here, so they need to be aware of ‘stranger danger’ and teaching kids about strangers can only come from you.

The Horrific Truth

“Parents need to be more vigilant about the need fro teaching kids about strangers,” says Hanadi Al Yafei, Director of the Supreme Council for Family Affairs an Head of the Organising Committee of the Child Safety Campaign. This year, the Council together with Sharjah Police carried out a social experiment in which a team of psychologists approached 26 young children in an attempt to lure them away with promises of games, presents and candy. Half voluntarily walked away with strangers, indicating that often, children in the UAE are simply not brought up to say no to strangers.

Abusers are Likely to be People We Know

Psychologist Dr. Sarah Rasmi, is Managing Director of the Dr. Sarah Rasmi Wellness Centre and she says:.

“When teaching kids about strangers, it’s important that we avoid fear tactics, because we don’t want our kids to feel that every time they go out of the house, a stranger is going to try and lure them away. These tragedies do happen but children are much more likely to be victimised by somebody that they know.

Statistics show that perpetrators of abuse, including sexual abuse, are most likely to be people that we know as opposed to strangers, so that’s a really important message to drive home to parents.”

Parental Strategies for Teaching Kids About Strangers

Empower kids to listen to their own bodies

“We all have physiological responses to when something doesn’t feel right, we all have our instincts and our intuitions, and when we are placed in a situation that doesn’t feel right, what happens is our bodies sends us signals through the flight or fight response,” explains Dr. Rasmi.  Parents need to teach children to trust their intuition and to listen to their body.

She suggests reading The Right Touch by Sandy Kleven, which she has read to her own children, and which helps differentiate between what might be a right touch and what is considered a wrong touch.

Teach kids how to say no and how to yell

“One of the ways to do this, especially if you have timid kids, is to role play with them about certain situations,” says Dr Rasmi. “For example, when children have to go into a public bathroom by themselves, role play what would happen if somebody approached your child, see how would they say no, teach them the importance of yelling at a stranger and being assertive, advise them to reach out to a mother who has children.”

Listen without judgement or reaction

“No matter how taken aback we are by what our kids are telling us, it’s important to not doubt them in that moment because we want them to feel that we are a safe place and a trusted person, when they do have this feeling they can come and talk to us and that’s an important thing in general because communication is one of the hallmarks of relationships,” says Dr Rasmi.

There are no secrets

“We shouldn’t get into the habit of telling our kids secrets,” says Dr Rasmi, “because one of the things that perpetrators will do, especially if the perpetrator is a trusted adult, they will tell the child, ‘This is our secret.’ So we don’t want to normalise this  concept of secrets because then your child will be less likely to come and tell you about the incident.”

The Dr. Sarah Rasmi Wellness Centre in Dubai works with parents who would like one-on-one support with the challenges they are facing at home. Click HERE for more information.



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